Joseph Anthony Suarez – 27

Before I share my story about the sudden tragic loss of our son, Joseph Anthony Suarez (Joe), I thought it would be a good idea to introduce him and share a few words of love from his family and friends.

Joe’s journey in life was far more purposeful than he could have ever recognized.  He gave a new meaning to the phrase “living in the moment.”  For 27 years, we were beyond blessed to have him in our life; Joe made a difference in the world and in every life he touched.  His personality was amusing, loving, genuine; he loved celebrations of any kind; he brought laughter and moments of warm joy to any occasion.  He had many extraordinary qualities/characteristics, far too many to write down, but one of his most remarkable was that fantastic smile!  His smile was contagious; it was a beaming light that illuminated his presence in every way.  On your worst day, he could make you feel happy just by talking to him.  Joe had that “something special” about him, one of his friends referred his personality to the word “vibe.”  He just had it, all of it, and he shared that vibe with everyone who knew him and those who just happened to meet him once or twice.  He was the most selfless human being to ever meet in life.  Joe never judged anyone and was always that person rooting for the underdog.  He had a way of seeing the good in people, no matter what bad they had done.  Forgiveness was always close to his heart.  Joe forgave quickly; he didn’t like to prolong an issue with anyone; his outlook on life was to move forward and leave the drama behind him.  Don’t look back; he would say, only ahead!  Being mad at Joe never lasted long either; all he had to do was smile and say, “I love you, and I’m sorry” (which he genuinely meant), and whatever it was that caused the anger would be long forgotten, as he could have you laughing within seconds.  Joe loved being around many people; the more significant the crowd, the better!  He was confident (but never arrogant or cocky, just funny about it), intelligent, trusting, genuine, humble, and had a great passion for music, sports, and fashion.  Joe loved football, golf, baseball, basketball, and his love for music was diverse.  He enjoyed watching movies (sometimes the same movie over and over again), he would quote phrases from “Zoolander” or “Friday” and many more, he loved watching  “Seinfeld” episodes, and we could hear him laughing from any room in the house.  His love for family was number one.  He had once told me we should have had another boy so he could have a brother.  I would say to him God blessed us with one son, and he had a Godbrother. Nicholas is my sister’s youngest child, we baptized him, and when she died, we helped raise him with my mom. Nicholas became Joe’s brother, literally.  They did everything together growing up, and we’re incredibly close.  I call Nicholas the “gatekeeper.”

There are moments I’ll ask him specific questions about Joe, and he will tell me, “Nina, I love you very much, but I have to take the 5th on that one. I’m sorry, but he’s my bro. I can’t betray his confidence in me.”  I love how much he loves and respects Joe.  This whole life-changing situation has taken an enormous toll on Nick.  It took me a while to realize that, but I see it now.  The fog is starting to lift, a phrase I often speak of out loud. Joe had so many friends. He could make friends with anyone. I saw how many friends he had at his Celebration of Life.  People filled up the entire church, the chapel, and along the walls.  It was beautiful to see how many lives our son touched at only 27 years old.  Joe would do anything to help or give his time to every friend in his life. If someone needed him, Joe was always there.  He never walked away from his friends, not abandon them in a time of need.  Joe was compassionate and genuinely loved those closest to him.  There was a group of guys he grew up with and they continued their close friendship for many years after high school.  He referred to them as his “TRYBE.”  Joe lived each day “in the moment” and loved the simple things in life.  He was a Brother, Uncle, Grandson, Godson, Nephew, Cousin, Best Friend; he was so many things to many people.  But, first and most importantly, he was “our son” and we shared him with the world.  Below are a few family photos, that beautiful smile touched so many lives.

I could sit here all day and night writing about his remarkable personality and the impact he made in just 27 years; instead, I’m going to share a few quotes from people who wrote to me or posted comments on his social media pages.  We all deeply feel his absence in our world, and everything is different now; it’s like the world suddenly got quiet.  However, I am 100% convinced that heaven got much louder!

Enjoy getting to know our Joe.  He had a unique “vibe” and was loved by so many.  His extraordinary spirit will always live in our hearts.

From: Brian Burrell
Hi Elaine,

It’s incredibly difficult for me to put into words the impact that Joe had on me. He was a fantastic person, friend, and someone who I always looked up to. Some of my best memories are with Joe, and he’ll always have a special place in my heart.  When I talk about Joe now, I find myself talking less about the fun times and more about the way he would make you feel. Joe loved everyone, and everyone loved Joe. You could legit walk into a party and know no one but Joe, and he’d make you instantly feel at home. He just had a way about him that made him impossible to replicate and so difficult to put into words. He was the most welcoming and friendly person to everyone and comfortable in any setting.   He’d always greet me with his huge smile and his tagline of the month (wasssup blood, suhhh dude, sup my G). IDK It was just Joe.

Joseph Anthony Suarez was born on August 31, 1990, in Bakersfield, California.  He was our first-born child and only son. His arrival into this world was just as spectacular as it was when he left us, an entire room filled up with people who loved him endlessly.  We waited five years before we started our family, then along came our first child, our son. Joe changed our lives in ways we didn’t know could be different; he made the sun shine brighter, the stars glowed more, the moon got more prominent, the sounds of life became more apparent and louder.  He gave us so much joy, we decided to have more children, and three years later, we gave birth to our beautiful daughter Allie, and four years after, then gave birth to another beautiful daughter, Juliana. Joe absolutely adored and loved his younger sisters; they worshipped their big brother as well.   He was their best friend, and the three of them had a strong sibling love that will last a lifetime, no matter if he is physically or spiritually here with us.  Every day was an “I love you” day.  It truly is a beautiful site to see and hear when your children speak the words, “I love you, Sis, or I love you, Brother.”  I soon came to learn; Joe would say “I love you” to his close friends too, and now I hear him thru every one of his friends when they say, “I love you, Momma Suarez.”

James and Joe

From: James Diaz

May 28th is a day that will sit deep in the hearts of hundreds of people. It’s very difficult to put Joe into a few short memories. Joe was a vibe. He was able to change the atmosphere of a room.  Since the first day, I met Joe; he looked out for me. The first time I met Joe was at a BHS football game when I was in the 8th grade, and he was a freshman. We both had long hair, and after we were introduced, he started to call me his brother. That same year I shadowed at BHS, and when I was on campus Joe immediately came up and hung out with me. It sounds corny as hell to say, but Joe made me feel really cool that day. Three days before Joe passed, my mother in Law saw Joe. She had never met him before. She described him as so happy and full of life. She said he had a distinct laugh and that he kept saying how he introduced Juliana and me together. Juliana and I didn’t know how we met. But Joe reminded us that it was all because of him.

Juliana Suarez to Joseph Anthony Suarez

Every day is hard without you, but we don’t have any other choice but to keep living. Sometimes it doesn’t even feel like you are gone. It just feels like you are away, and we can’t talk to you. But then, when I stop and think about it and realize that you’re gone, it’s still to this day the hardest thing to believe and accept. I sit in your room and look at the pictures we have of you all over and think to myself how much I miss you and how long it’s going to be until I see you again, and I hate it because all I want to do is talk to you and hug you. I try to stay strong and happy for you, brother because you never liked seeing me sad, but a part of me will never be the same anymore because a part of my family is gone. I love you to no end💙

Joseph Anthony, you are missed by so many but mostly by me, your Meh, your Pops, your Lil sis Allie & Juliana, and your beautiful niece Ella.  She points to your picture every time we ask her, “where’s Uncle Joe?” and she points directly to your photo and kisses you.  We will forever keep your memory in her heart and soul.

Joe and Allie

Allie Suarez is with Joseph Anthony Suarez.

June 28

Published by Losing Joe - Finding My Way Thru Grief

My name is Elaine Suarez, I am a mother of 3 children; Joseph 27, Allie 25, Juliana 21. I’ve been married to the love of my life, Isadore, for 33 years. We’ve been blessed with three healthy and beautiful children. We raised our kids with unconditional love, joy for family, knowing our Catholic Faith, and the importance of working hard to achieve life goals. The five of us never left each others presence without saying, “I love you.” We are an extremely close family. On the morning of May 29, 2018, at approximately 11:00 am, I received a phone call from the coroner's office notifying me that our only son, Joseph Anthony Suarez, age 27, was deceased. And, just like that, in a matter of less than 2 seconds our life would never again be the same. Joseph (Joe) was only 27 and his life had come to an abrupt and devastating end. He is the eldest of three, our only son and only brother to our two daughters. This is my story of Losing Joe. Son, I love you to no end, Joseph Anthony Suarez. We will forever be a team my Jeh. ♥️i love u forever, your Meh.♥️

10 thoughts on “Joseph Anthony Suarez – 27

  1. What a sweet way to remember your Joe and keep his essence alive. Thanks for sharing him. All of the stories confirm he was a gift to those who were fortunate enuough to have known him. He lives on in your memories and in your hearts. Sending love to the Suarez family.


    1. Simply Amazing you are “Joseph” that infectiousness thing you did, whether it was showing your unconditional love to all or wearing those sunglasses and your own style of gear..but hey we had one thing in common besides the many shoes is the Love you have for your Mom Elaine..I’ve had the honor of being your Moms friend for 40+ years but with being her bestie came all the stories about your living the moment..I gotta say you sure knew many people even some that are mutual and not one of them has anything to say but good things..What a legend you left for the 27 years you had in this world.
      As Allie says it’s like you’re still present and we know that when Your lil neice Ellie speaks and runs into the dining room to make noise slamming the shades that’s it’s you with her..
      I applaud all Your friends which all quite Gentle Souls to be present for Momma Suarez is something you dont hear about…priceless. Juliana has stepped up to the plate youd be so proud of her and Allie shes gonna be the family nurse..Joe Thank you for your opening arms and the drink we shared in April I ll forever remember..for that day you were in awe to see Your Mom shake her groove thang..
      You know your Mom has embraced life in a different perspective…yes she will always cry for her son but in each tear is like a link where her strength will be her necklace of Joseph..where her love for you continues to be infinite..

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  2. Joseph, my little brother. Looking back at my life so many memories come to my mind as if we just lived them. I was on Walnut Groove Ct a few days ago and it about ripped my fucking heart out (sorry for the f-bomb) we were just little kids spending all day inside waiting for your mom to bring us a vhs tape from blockbuster or waiting for your dad or mom to come home so we can go outside because we could hear the sounds of skateboards hitting the cement from Andrew or Tyler. I go on and on about that street but like I said I can go on and on about memories I have with you Joseph. Its bittersweet because I never thought those memories would be so vivid in my mind because they were numbered. That being said, the treasure chest of memories I have mean the world to me. There are things I laugh at till this say that no one would ever get but you. I fucking love you Joseph thank you for the love you gave me and never once calling me your cousin but always your brother.

    One last memory I will share about Walnut Groove is that brick wall. I was alot taller than Joe so when we would go to the park I would always have to give him a boost. It went without saying we had a routine for that fence. And I also remember getting into a fight in the street because when it snowed joe threw a snow ball at this kid (his name was andrew but he was a year older than me) right at his eye and he went after joe and without any thought I stood between them and me and him fought forever it felt like in the street. He kinda beat me up bit I didn’t care he wasnt going to touch my braaaahh. Sorry if there is any grammer confusion.

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  3. How beautiful my cousin Laina for sharing all these memories♥️Your Joe was your life and know he’s the angel watching over you and the family Laina♥️Your lives will forever change with such a loss but the memories will last a life time. A part of Joe was left with each of your so cherish what joy he gave you. Blessings to you my Laina and family, love you cousin💞

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  4. I see your pictures everyday, they are on my desk and on my walls. We have so many moments together that it’s hard to pick out a single one I love the most. But I remember that we had fun. You had that laugh you could hear a mile away. You were so confident in everything you did. Something I loved about you that I wish I had. I remember going anywhere and you would love to talk to anyone about anything. It’s hard to think your not here and it breaks my heart when I think about calling you and asking what do you feel like doing. I can’t remember a time when you were quite. You always were so loud that I would even have to tell you to be quite haha. But I miss that the most, I wish you were here my brother. I miss you everyday and cherish every moment we had. Love you and you’ll always be with me.

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  5. If more families loved like the Suarez family, this world would be amazing. Thank you for sharing your story Elaine. Joe had th “it factor” because of his wonderful parents who showed him what unconditional love his. My heart goes out to all his family and friends who have been touched by this beautiful person. Continue his legacy. “When we surrender our will to His and accept His redeeming grace, then we can be used to further His kingdom”. May Joe walk with the angels and be your guardian.

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    1. This was absolutely beautiful Thank You for sharing this just know he is always around his spirit and he’s smiling, he will always be in my heart and I will never forget him ❤️

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  6. I miss you so much my son. Its just not the same without you here watching sports or talking about fantasy football. My heart hurts every day , and a part of me died with you son. Im taking it day by day and struggling to make sense of all thats happened with me being the last one to see you that monday afternoon. You will forever be in my heart son and life will never be the same for me with your absence. Love you so much son … ur pops IS 😭

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